Are you hoping to find a match today? Yeah! I mean... I'm hoping not to continue this pattern of Very very bad men. I love to dance so I don't like it when I'm with somebody who's a total debbie downer or Boring and just kind of stands there and doesn't wanna dance I would definitely Want someone open-minded but not a freak, so you shouldn't be into feet, but... You know a little choking is fun little ya know [timer ticking] I do like 'em tall because I'm...Pretty tall for an Asian girl and when I.
Put on my heels. I would like to still be shorter than my man. So they need to be I think at least 5'11 but I prefer like 6 feet tall. I would not want to be with somebody who wants kids within 7 years.
I love kids I've been an aunt since I was 10 So I'm like natural around babies and kids, but I want to really just share a love with somebody that's so great And it's all about loving each other before we can, you know, bring somebody else in the world I think you should be mentally stable as well financially stable because you're gonna be responsible for Shaping their future. It's kind of a big pressure cuz you could really fuck somebody up in the head if you're not There and I take that really seriously You know what I have a younger brother and anybody younger than me, I just automatically think of my brother so Like they could be the hottest person in the room and if they tell me they're even a month younger than me I'm just like oh, I just see my brother and it's like...Ugh. Would not date my brother I thought there would be maybe four guys left? But there were none. So today I learned that uh, my criteria is...Hahaha not I guess, easy as I thought it was but I'm okay with that because I.
Don't, like these are values and things that I don't want to bend and change right now I used to really beat myself up in my past relationships after they ended cuz I felt like I wasn't good enough but I think I'm at a place in my life right now where I know what I want and there's nothing wrong with Having these standards. You shouldn't have to bend your values and what you want to please somebody else.
Ahh, I'll say 2... I guess. I'll just throw a number out If it's zero then... Hey That's my life already, so it's cool Instead of Hello I just put help Nice Alright, okay Okay 3 2 1 Ah, alright I think I definitely prefer girls who...
Have been in a relationship before Or at least maybe a long-term relationship Because they really kind of know what it's like to be in a relationship And starting something new with somebody who's never had that Is a lot harder Honestly? Fast Wow, okay Knocked a lot of them out Oh god Okay, we'll go for the clickbait first You know getting experimental in the bedroom is always fun for me that sounds like I'm Christian Grey but nothing too crazy I don't like like things getting boring. I just like position:relative Cool got that out of the way, I guess I. Ethnicity wise I have zero preference. I genuinely find beauty in like any race or culture or anyone But when it comes like physical attributes definitely prefer girls who are either a couple inches taller than me or shorter I don't mind it when it girls a little bit taller than me But if it's over like 2 inches, maybe I feel a little bit weird Cool cool Don't like it when girls believe in horoscopes It's like the weirdest thing ever but I hate it when someone's like oh I'm a Libra.
I don't think me too click. The moons aren't aligned for this this month So we can't really, you know, get bobba because we wouldn't click I hate that shit Gods good man. Fuck. Okay.
Like girls who are into the arts in my creative arts so people who are already down that path when we start dating love studying arts, or You know anything within that field career was that's something to talk about. You know, I can't talk about accounting cuz I don't know shit about accounting so definitely like someone who lines within my interests within the arts whether that be music physical painting Acting camera, whatever Sorry Hi nice to meet everyone sorry, I'm motoki Okay, nice to meet you Julia nice to meet you Heather nice to meet you guys funny responses that was was, okay work was like fun, but also terrifying I kinda wanted to shit myself that whole time Does this mean that we are all compatible? I was surprised at how many people had not been in a long-term relationship Maybe I was too Specific on my my dates but that was kind of interesting just like, you know from the get-go Yeah, I guess I guess the Everyone's true colors comes out as time passes. I guess getting the few preferences out First is kind of nice But I can't really say that I would want to get in a relationship with somebody based on just you know guidelines that I set It's hard. I'm not a picky guy, you know I'm a lover of all beings That sounds fucking dumb.
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Grab a pen, grab some paper, because I'm about to give you five things that
you can do in early stage dating that I think most people are not doing that will make someone fall for you much harder, and by the way, ladies,
you are gonna love number five, because it is gonna save
you so much time and energy. Alright.
Let's get started. Number One Slow down. Most of us,
if we're human we get a little nervous on a date.
We get anxious,
or we even just get excited, but all of those things
produce a pace in the way we talk. When we get nervous,
or excited we tend to talk faster. Now sometimes this is a good thing. That energy...
It can be fun.
It can be vibrant. At other times
it means we lose our power, because instead of sometimes sitting back,
and allowing moments on a date to breathe. We talk all over everything. We're so fast
that nothing we say gets heard, and we look like we're just anxious.
So instead,
don't be afraid to slow things down. Don't be afraid to take a moment
to take a sip of your drink, or even just in a moment look up at him, and then look down again. Ya know,
that little moment where you have a moment of tension, but you don't say anything. When you allow
moments to breathe like that you show confidence at the same time
as allowing someone to fully take you in.
Number Two Let someone finish their story. When someone else is telling a story many of us take the opportunity to think, "Oh! I have
something that connects to this story." Or,
"The thing that you're talking about right now..." "I also have a story like that." Or,
"I've done something like that." So mid-way through their story, and we've all done it.
We say, "Oh my god.
I have something I have to tell you." A story,
when someone is telling it isn't a moment for us to be impressive, it's a moment for us to be impressed. It's not a moment for us to be significant, it's a moment for us
to make them feel significant. That's why they're
telling the story in the first place.
So when someone is telling a story allow them to finish it before you jump in. Number Three Don't just ask questions; share information. I recently did a TV show where I gave women advice on how to go
and have a great date, and then I got to watch these dates filmed. So I literally was able to see
these dates play out minute by minute.
There was something that happened
in three out of four of these dates that was really unexpected for me. These women did not have a
problem asking questions of the guys. The got very curious about the guys, but they weren't sharing
information about themselves. They weren't actually getting vulnerable.
They weren't connecting,
because they weren't sharing. What's interesting
is that these women thought they were having
a good conversation with the guy. They were like,
"Matt, I'm doing everything right." "I keep asking questions." "I'm showing I'm interested," "but by the end of the date,
I just didn't feel like there was a connection." And I thought, yeah,
you didn't feel like there was a connection, because you
didn't actually tell him anything. All you did was sound like
a journalist who was interviewing him, but you didn't share things from your life, from your experiences, and that's what would have made him feel like he actually
knew you by the end of the date.
Remember, curiosity about
somebody else can be very flattering, but it will never create a deep connection until you're prepared
to get vulnerable about yourself too. Number Four Be present. Now it is no secret that today we are addicted to our devices, we are addicted to distraction... *Incoming Text Message Ping* Give me one second...
Where were we? Oh yeah. It's nice when someone's just with us. When we're on a date, let's get into the
habit of just putting the phone in our pocket. Of resisting the urge to be
tempted by novelty and distraction, because in these times there is nothing more sexy
than actual focus and attention.
Number Five Stop trying to look perfect all the time. Remember that scene
from Bridesmaids, the movie? Where she's in bed with the guy, and then while he's asleep she rushes to the
bathroom to put on her make-up, and get dolled up
to then get back in bed, and pretend that
she woke up looking like that. Now the problem is
in real life, instead of showing someone
that we just look hot all the time, what it really does
is show how insecure we are. Remember,
the you that goes out on date night, and puts a ton of effort into getting ready...
Yeah, she's gorgeous, she's beautiful, she's sexy, and it can be fun, right? It can be fun to take
a little too long getting ready. There's a theater to that. To showing up. Looking amazing.
All of that. It's cool. But also understand that there are moments
where the opposite is just as fun. Where waking up in the morning,
and embracing the way you are in the morning without having to rush
to hide yourself, or put on make-up...
That's a really sexy quality. That actually a lot of guys... I would wager the majority of guys
love that moment where he's like, <i>"Do you wanna go get coffee?"</I> "Do you wanna walk and go get coffee?" And she's like, "Alright, screw it.
Let me just shove on this hoodie. Let's go." That moment of care-free, low-maintenance, having fun, being in the moment spirit is actually a very attractive,
and sexy quality.
It shows that you're confident, and it shows you don't need to be perfect
in order to feel great about yourself. That you can feel just as good
in the moments where you're not trying. Now I love this video,
because it's focused on the practical, and whenever we talk about
practical things people can do in dating, instead of generic theories, people respond because it gives them
something they can actually do today, but one of the problems
I see in people's love lives is that they're just not creating any options. They're sitting here...
They like these videos, but they haven't actually got
anyone to go and try this stuff on.
So one big thing
we need to be able to do is create options, and the second thing we need to do is if we have the guy
in front of us that we like... How do you actually create
massive attraction with that person? Most people don't
know how to do that. I have a program called,
Attract Any Man that is a foundational program that's designed to
do those two things for you. I'd love for you
to try this program this week.
If you just watch my videos every week, but you never actually get in the game,
and get one of these programs, try it this week. Attract Any Man
is here. I'm gonna link it up here. Give it a go.
Let me know what you think, and I can not wait to hear your results.
As I said,
click the link, I will see you on the inside, and thank you, as always
for watching this video..
