-Somebodys hungry!Me. -Ooo, you know what? Lets try
that new place on Ludlow. -Great! They deliver right? -No, I mean like, actually go to
the restaurant. -Thats crazy! You dont want to
leave? -Yeah, why? Its beautiful out!
Oh, we can get our steps in! -I dont know, Im comfy.
-Is there a reason you dont
want to go out?
-Yes. A very specific one. -So, on the subway yesterday, I
read this GQ article over
someones shoulder. They were scrolling a little
quickly, but I think I got the
gist.
-How is this important? -Hanna, this concerns the fabric
of our very lives. The article
states that most successful relationships happen between
people of similar
attractiveness. -So?
-So, we are fundamentally at
risk here. -What are you talking about,
Paul?
-Allow me to explain.
-Ahh! That's not for yet! Ok, and, God. I took an average
of our profile picture likes,
factored in comments, loves, sads I was the only one with
sads, that hurt but the results show that you
are 1.62 Points hotter than me
on the 10 scale. -What are you 12 years old? None
of this matters. I think youre
a 10.
-Then how do you explain this? Ah!! Ahh! I DIDNT EVEN DRAW
THAT ONE?!!! Anyhoo, you could see why its
statistically dangerous for us
to leave the apartment. -Ok, so whats the plan? Are we
just gonna never leave?
-Oh, thank God. Im so glad that you said it. -Paul, I was joking.
This is
stupid. -What's stupid about isolating
ourselves? Anything we can get
out there we can get in here! -Ok, so, um what if I want to go
out and I want to go dancing? -Easy! Alexa! Play dance music!
-Playing Dan Music. Whos Dan?! Alexa stop! Whos
Dan?! -Dan is my dad! Stop yelling at
my stuff. -Thank God.
I thought it was
someone who was objectively more
attractive than I am. -Oh, hey dude!
-Hey! Thanks for letting me
borrow this. -Oh yeah!
-Yeah! Later, Cory!
-Alright, later. -What a poignant example of
exactly what Im talking about.
-What? Your math says I should
be with Cory? Come on. Maybe! But its not about
Cory, its about every Cory!
When I look at that piece of meat, I just see a number and guess what its way
higher than mine. -Paul, this is ridiculous. You
think Im just going out with
you for your looks? -Um, I did! But even if its not
just about looks, I mean Im a
good guy.
But Im not great. There are way better guys, and
some of those guys have abs.
Fantastic abs. -Oh my God. Paul, our
relationship is so much more
complex than that.
It's not like I'm gonna go out and bump into some random hot guy and dump
you. Look, you make me grow in
ways that I cant explain. I am gonna get ready to go to the
restaurant. I hope that youll
come with me.
-Hey, man. Its Cory.
-Hi, Cory. -You know, from earlier?
-I know who you are, Cory.
-I couldnt help but overhear
your conversation with Hanna.
-Okay -Look, I just went through the
same thing with a girl who was
way more attractive than I was.
So dont sell yourself short. I
mean look man, you got a great
set of abs. -I purchased these at a Party
City. -Oh, um.
Come here. Get in here. My man, you are rock hard. -Thats real.
-Thought so..
The title tells you pretty much everything
you need to know about Dating Naked, a reality show that aired on VH1 between 2014 and 2016. Singles flew to tropical locales, stripped
nude, then went on jet-skiing and horseback-riding dates in their birthday suits. But while the premise got a lot of buzz, the
ratings didn't, and the show was canceled after only three seasons. Here are some of the issues that left Dating
Naked in the dumps.
Feeling the sting The tropical locales where Dating Naked filmed
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[...] My remedy is wearing pants." As for the contestants who couldn't wear pants,
Amy said, "They've got bug bites in interesting places." If itchy welts below the belt aren't bad enough,
imagine getting a sunburn there too. Season 2 star Kerri told the Tampa Bay Times
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Naked, and it was about more than just the nudity. The prime-time television show was rated TV-14,
a fact that the Parents Television Council watchdog group called "downright disgusting." They pointed out that graphic conversations
about everything from genital jewelry to sexual encounters were common on the show. Meanwhile, conservative group One Million
Moms argued, "Even though the frontal body parts are blurred
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advertisers to boycott the show.
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Dial and Right Guard.
PTC President Tim Winter said, "By the end of the season more than 90 percent
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dollars, television networks cannot afford to keep harmful content on the air." The infamous cam' Dating Naked's cameras caught a lot of skin
- and even went so far as to employ a " cam" during activities such as kayaking or
bicycling. While it's not a complete surprise, many found
it distasteful. PopSugar's Maggie Pehanick pointed out, "Whether horseback riding, paddleboarding,
or riding a bike, we were exposed to the most violating of camera angles." Turns out not everyone wants to see "it"
from every angle. The " wedding" Dating Naked wrapped Season 1 with a clothing-optional
wedding.
"Duh-nuh-duh-nuh" But it turns out the ceremony wasn't legally
binding. Despite its billing as a wedding by VH1, "bride"
Ashley told Entertainment Weekly it was a commitment ceremony, saying, "I don't think you need a document [...] To
say that you care for someone." "Groom" Alika didn't even tell his parents
about the big day, claiming, "My mom's really Christian. She'll be like, 'You're going to go hell! You need to pray to Jesus tonight!'" Too nude for comfort Jessie Nizewitz, who appeared in Season 1,
sued VH1's parent company, Viacom, for a whopping $10 million in 2014, after her uncensored
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privates are typically blurred.
But Nizewitz's parts appeared for a split
second during a bout of wrestling. A New York judge ruled in 2015 to dismiss
her case and even required her to pay Viacom's legal fees. According to Entertainment Weekly, Viacom
claimed that she'd signed a contract stating that: "She would participate and be filmed fully
[and] that the footage could be exhibited and distributed without restriction." The show gets dumped While Dating Naked hasn't aired on VH1 since
2016, the network never came out and said it was canceled. Instead, VH1 President Chris McCarthy implied
that it didn't fit with his channel's plans for the future.
McCarthy told Deadline in 2017, "We would like the opportunity at some point
to reinvent it, but for right now we felt the shows and assets that we have made more
sense as we head into the year." Ratings bomb Despite all the drama surrounding Dating Naked,
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run. Ultimately, while an endless parade of young,
hot, singles generated a lot of buzz, it just wasn't enough to make people watch.
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There is a lot of dating advice out there that doesn't make sense to me. Always make sure you're the one to text him less. So if he sends you two texts you send him one. And if he sends you one text you send him one word answers.
If he's getting distant then you just tell him that he's being clingy and that you need space. You just always have to reverse psychology them. Here's a series of books of canned responses for every possible scenario organized alphabetically by topic of discussion. Thank you..
Yeah I will... Um.. Get right on that There's articles and books and movies and blogs and videos All based purely on the concept that there is a right way to date someone. That there is a correct combination of texts and words and behaviours that will make somebody fall in love with you without you losing your power.
I think this is bullshit And I mean don't get me wrong. I'll admit when I was fifteen I would read Cosmopolitan and Seventeen magazine and follow their advice to a "T" He's gonna call me now. He's gonna call me now. He's gonna call me now.
Now. Now. He's gonna call me now. He's...
*Gasps* *phone ringing* Hey Michael! I'm so sorry. I was just in the shower... All naked and stuff What's up chicken butt? But I realized that all of this advice is based on the flawed premise that love is a game and people are prizes to be won. And when I would follow these rules and inevitably get to know a person better And become emotionally invested in them.
I would realize way too late. Wait! We're not actually compatible. Yeah so I just like walked out. Wait...
You just left without paying? Look if they're not going to give me the bill on time then I'm just gonna go. Bye! *Chuckles* I remember when I was in like my late teens early twenties I had like this really long conversation with my grandma where I was just like confused and angry about love and marriage and dating and I just felt like there were so many rules you had to follow And I had so much anxiety about doing the wrong thing or saying the wrong thing. And she was like "Anna Kay. The only dating advice you will ever need is to just be yourself." Because that way if someone falls in love with you, they're falling in love with you And not this idea that you've presented.
It's a lot of work to maintain an idea over a long period of time. It's quite easy to keep being yourself. And her advice, though very simple, and straightforward and seemingly obvious really stuck with me. As like a no bullshit way to see who's weirdness vibes with your weirdness.
Because if you're the kind of person who says whatever is on their mind No matter how inappropriate or dark Your date's gonna either laugh and like it or they're gonna think that it's awkward and never call you again. But either way, you didn't hold back an aspect of your personality that you otherwise might've suppressed for some time. I think it's much better to just be upfront with who you are and what the other person is signing up for. And if they like it - great! And if they don't - cool! Move on and find somebody else.
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(Slow piano music) (footsteps clocking) (plastic crinkles) (heavy breathing) - Oh God. (Keys rustling) (woman screams) (slaps cracking) (woman screams) (melancholy music of intrigue) (smooth upbeat music) (crowd chatters) - We leave tomorrow night. Yeah. (Wine glass clinking) - Okay, okay, okay,
settle down, settle down.
First of all, I want to thank
you guys for coming out. I am the best man, Lee Sumner. - And I am Anita Ferrell,
the maid of honor. On behalf of both
Neil and Brandi, we want to welcome you to this, their wedding rehearsal dinner.
- We would like to thank
you guys for coming out and celebrating this
very joyous occasion, and I know that each of
you are here to wish them the very best of luck. - Now I've known these
two since college, and have watched their
relationship grow into what is today one
of love and commitment. - So without further ado,
I will like you to join me, or should I say join
us, in welcoming the future Mr. And
Mrs.
Neil and Brandi. Give it y'all. (Audience claps) - Wow, first I'll
like to thank you all for coming out this evening. I knew when I first met
Brandi that God had destined us to be man and wife,
and this is truly a very special day
for me and once again I just wanna thank all
of you for coming out and for sharing it with us.
You wanna say something? (Audience claps) - Hi, where do I begin? Wow, so much has happened leading up to this day. Each one of you
has supported us, come out tonight to be with us, and I just want to say, I can't do this, I'm sorry. (Audience gasps in disbelief) - Brandi. - Folks.
- [Neil] You keep
telling me you need this but I want you to know
how much I need you. They're just not the same. - Neil, I just need some space. We've been together since
we graduated college.
- [Neil] So what's
wrong with that? - Everything. I mean, I just need some time. Lately, I just been feeling
like there's something missing. You understand, don't you? - [Neil] Now you want to
talk about these things after the fact? I hope you got a good
reason for all of these.
- I do. - [Neil] Ehmm, all right. - Look, it's five and
Anita's about to leave me. We'll talk another time, okay? - [Neil] I'll meet you at seven.
I really hope you'll tell
me what this is about. - I will. - [Neil] I love you. - Neil, bye.
- Girl, why do you always
get into some soap opera phone call at quitting time? - I'm sorry, that was Neil. - Oooh, I see. - [Woman in Black] See what? - Everything. - Stop.
- [Woman in Black] Who
are we talking about? - We, Neil. - Mr. Construction
worker, your man? - He's not my man anymore. - You wouldn't know, as it's
much as he still calls you.
- Wait, that man wants to
marry you, has a good job, and yet at home he's
living with his mama. Do you know how many
women wish they had that? - Well Toni, if you
like him so much, why don't you date him? - What's his number? - Brandi, Neil is
in love with you. - I'm just not sure if I'm
in love with him anymore. Hi.
- Hi. - I'm surprised you came
after what happened. - Yeah. - I brought you here to tell
you why I did what I did.
- What did you do? - Neil, you know what I did. - I don't, let's see. Was it when
you-told-me-that-you-love-me
Friday? Or wait a minute,
maybe it was at dinner when you stood beside me
and whilst we rambled on about how God brought us
together so we can be married? Oh wait, maybe it was
when you stood in front of my family and friends,
and canceled our wedding. Which one was it Brandi? - All right, it was all of them.
Neil, since college, I
looked forward to the day we were gonna be
together, be married. For the past five years,
all I've dreamed about was us having a house, a family, and spending my life with you. - So what changed? Was it me? - No. - Is there somebody else? - No, no, there is no one else.
- Then what's the problem? - Me, I'm scared. - Scared of what? - I don't know, I just might
not be ready to get married. It's only things I haven't
done, places I've never been. - People you haven't seen? - I don't know, maybe.
- So I guess the
real question is not about you getting married. It's about you
getting married to me. - That's not what I said. - I'm trying to
understand you, Brandi.
- I just feel that
marriage is for a lifetime. I just want to be sure. - You know, a week ago, we
called this garden, our place. Guess not anymore.
(Knocks) - [Brandi] Yeah. - Hey girl. - Hey. - You got a minute? - Yeah.
- Look, I wanted to
apologize for today. - Today? - Yeah, for giving you such
a hard time about Neil. - Girl, don't even
let that bother you. - Well no, I thought
about what you said.
About whether or not you're
still in love with him. - Yeah. - And I guess I just never
thought about that before. - Well, I've been with
him for five years.
Lately, I've just
been feeling like there's something missing. - No, all you're missing
is a lot of drama. There I go again. - Girl, don't worry about it.
- No hard feelings? - None. - Good, well since we've
taken care of that, I have a confession. - Okay. - Remember when you
asked me how I met Lee? - Yeah.
- Well it wasn't exactly
a party like I told you. I met Lee on Partyline. - On Partyline? You mean one of
those 1-900 numbers? - No, it's not like that. Okay, here's how it works.
You call this number
and you hear this guy. - Was he have a sexy voice? - Well, yes but he's
just a recording. That's not the point. - I'm just teasing.
- Well he directs
you to this menu, and from the menu you
can choose to speak with a group of people or listen to other callers' greetings. - Greetings. - Yeah, kinda like
a dating service. Everyone tells why
they're online.
- I don't get it. - Pass me your phone. I'll show you what I mean. - No way, I don't
want any of those perverts calling my phone.
- Well they don't
get your number, and you learn to
ignore the perverts. - [Partyline] Welcome
to the Partyline. You must be 18 years or
older to use this service. If you're under 18,
please hang up now.
- So this is really
how you met Lee. - Look, I'm showing you
this for your own good. - My own good? - [Partyline] Press
one to go to the party. Press two to go one-on-one.
You're one-on-one. Three rules, never
give out your name, never give out your phone
number, and have fun. (Phone beeps) - Oh, you have to
make up a name. - Make up a name? - [Partyline] At the
tone, say your name.
(Phone beeps) - This is Chardonnay
and Cristal. - Cristal? (Phone beeps) - [Partyline] Now, tell
us why you're here. (Phone beeps) - We're looking for
guys to speak with. Leave a message.
(Phone beeps) - [Partyline] If
you're satisfied with your greeting, press two. (Phone button beeps) - I can't believe
I'm doing this. - Shh, just listen. - [Partyline] Next.
- [Partyline Guy]
Hello, this is Calvin. I'm a 28-year-old
male, and I'd like-- (phone button beeps) - [Partyline] Next. - [Partyline Guy] What's up,
looking for the party girls. To them freaky ladies-- - Like I said, perverts.
- Look, you've been
trying to find a way to meet people right? - [Brandi] But not
on a Partyline. - Look, I know it sounds
crazy but it really works. Okay, look at the good side. You can call anytime you
want, stay anonymous, and it's free.
- Anita, I don't
know about this. This is really how you met Lee? - Yes ma'am. - You are such a freak. - That's okay, Lee likes it.
- Uh, I don't want
to hear anymore. - Well hear this, the
number is in your phone. Don't knock it 'till you try it. Good night, Cristal.
- Good night. (Pillow thuds) (melancholy music) Yes, I'm getting married. - [Anita] We want to welcome
you to the wedding rehearsal. (Crowd claps) - [Neil] God wants us
to be man and wife.
- [Brandi] I can't
do this, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. - Brandi, Brandi, Brandi. (Slow music) (phone dial beeps) - [Partyline] Welcome
to the Partyline.
You must be 18 years or
older to use this service. If you're under 18,
please hang up now. Press one to go to the party. Press two to go one-on-one.
(Phone beeps) - You're one-on-one. Three rules, never
give out your name, never give out your phone
number, and have fun. At the tone, say your name. (Phone beeps) - Cristal.
- [Partyline] Now, tell
us why you're here. (Phone beeps) - I couldn't sleep, was just
looking for conversation. (Phone beeps) - [Partyline] If
you're satisfied with your greeting, press two. (Phone beeps) Next.
- [Partyline Guy] What's
up, this is Calvin. 28-Year-old male,
looking to talk to all those sexy
ladies out there. (Phone beeps) - [Partyline] Next. - [Partyline Guy]
This is Domino.
Looking for those
hot, hot girls, those freaky ladies, those-- (phone beeps) - [Partyline] Next. - [Partyline Guy] Hola
chicas, this is Enrique calling from the south side. Looking for those mamacitas
who wants to let-- (phone beeps) - [Partyline] Next. - [Partyline Guy] Good
morning, this is Dre.
I just got on from a
long night at work, and I was wondering if
there's any intelligent, sophisticated, classy African
American women online tonight, who's just looking for
a nice conversation. - [Partyline] Press
one to connect. Press two to send a message. Press three to repeat.
Press four to move on
or press five to block. (Phone beeps) - Hi this is Cristal. I heard your message
and was wondering if I can find out
more about you. If you can, please
send a message back.
- [Partyline] Your
message has been sent. The caller has 12
messages waiting. - Oh, it figures. - [Partyline] Next.
- [Partyline Guy] Yo
sweetie, you sound hot. Why don't you connect
with me one-on-one and I could put
you to sleep that-- (phone beeps) - [Partyline] Next. - [Partyline Guy]
Yo, this is Magic, coming at you from
the west side. I'm looking for
that dear brother who wants to come
over and wax the gang.
Maybe drinks-- (phone beeps) - [Partyline] Next. - [Partyline Guy]
Man, I swear man. Listen, if you're fat, man,
if you ain't got no teeth. Man, if you got body
odor, man don't be trying to connect with me man.
Don't be pushing that-- (phone beeps) - [Partyline] Next. - [Partyline Guy] Hello
Cristal, this is Dre. Check out the bob, yeah - [Partyline Guy]
I got your message. I'll love to speak with you.
If you're free,
press one to connect. - You can find nobody if
you do on the manners, then we'll follow
on, not at the door. - [Partyline] You are
now being connected. - [Dre] Hello.
- Hi Dre. - [Dre] Hello
Cristal, how are you? - I'm fine and you? - Oh, you don't
even want to know. I am tired, I had
a long day at work. Oh man, but I must
say your greeting was a breath of fresh air.
- Really? - Yeah, I mean, normally
all I hear messages from hoochies and from
young women out here that have nothing going on. I've never heard you
on the line before. - Well, I'm new at this. My roommate Anita introduced
me to it this evening.
- So you're blaming your
roommate already, huh? - No, no, I'm not like that. - I know, I know, I know,
I was just teasing you. So tell me what's got you up
at this ungodly hour anyway. - I don't know,
I couldn't sleep.
- [Dre] Sounds like someone's
got something on their mind. - Hmmm, not really. - Oh come on now, you said
you wanted to talk remember? - I did, didn't I? - [Dre] Yes, you did. - Okay, let's see.
Ah yes, I'm feeling the
after effects of a breakup. - Go on. - Well, I was seeing a
guy for about five years. We were engaged, and I
recently broke up with him.
- Was he treating you badly? - No, that's it, he loves me. - Wait a minute,
so what happened? - I don't know, I
just felt like we need to put some space in between us. Now I'm here. - Well, I can tell you one
thing, I can relate to that.
- What about you? Why do you call the Partyline? - To be honest, I don't know. At one time, I hope to
find someone special. - [Brandi] Emm hmm. - No, no, wait really.
You see, in my profession,
I work all types of crazy hours and days,
and it's very difficult to maintain a
relationship with someone who doesn't understand that. - Aw, so what do you do? - I'm a doctor. - A doctor. - It's something I wanted
to be since I was a kid.
- Oh really? Why is that? - Well, my mother was
a very attractive woman and my father, let's just
say he was the jealous type. And he would hit my
mother and other times, he would just say
horrible things to her. - I'm sorry to hear that. - One day they had
this huge fight, and when he left, I can see
how he had taken a knife and cut her across her face.
I wished, I mean I just
wished I could do something to help her, you know,
just take the banging away. So when I got older, I
wanted to help people, you know, like my mother. Look I'm sorry, I guess
I just got a little caught up in on that. - It sounds noble but
I'm sure your mother wants you to be happy, and find someone to
share your life with.
- (Chuckles) Yeah, she would. Look, I've met a few
people here and there but never love connection. So I just call to pass
the time these days. - I don't think I can ever be
that blatant to meet someone.
- You know what, if you call
this Partyline long enough, you'll be amazed at
what you might do. - Brandi. (Phone rings) Brandi. - Oh my God, don't do that.
- Girl, what is up with you? You have been
dozing off all day. You're not on the pipe are you? - Stop it. I woke up late last night,
and I couldn't sleep so I called that Partyline. - What, you called? - Shhh, I don't
want anyone to know.
- I won't say anything. So who did you talk to? - What made you think
I talked to someone? - It is obvious, you
have been up to the crack of dawn
talking to someone. - Well, his name is Dre. He's 28, he lives up
north and he's a doctor.
- Girl, in Partyline talk, that means his name
is probably Ralph, he lives at home with
his mama, rides the bus, and works at a fast
food restaurant. - Anita. - I'm serious, they are
really that good, sweetie. Trust me.
- Okay. He has this great sexy voice. - Okay, tell me more. - Well, there isn't
much more to tell.
We're gonna talk again tonight. - Really? - Yes. - Brandi, I don't want you to
get your hopes up too high. Like I said, they're
really that good.
- Don't worry, it's not like
I'm in love or anything. - Good, oh, and one other
thing I forgot to tell you. Never give out your real
name or phone number. - Why not? - Trust me.
- But you met Lee. - Yes that's true. Just get a better
feel for the line, and the people
that are out there. - Okay.
- Okay, it's ladies night
and you two promised that you will go out
with me this week. - Tonight? - [Toni] Yes, tonight. - We did promise. - Alas, we could out the charm except for this fat guy who
kept trying to buy me drinks.
- Come on, Toni, he
couldn't be that bad. - Hmmm, girl that man was so fat the back of his dick looked
like a peck of hotdog. (Ladies giggle) Five o'clock, be ready. - Oh.
- Right. ("Party Over Here" by KTEM) - So tell me about Mr. 1-900. - Anita, you told her? - Well.
- And he's not a 1-900 man. - Okay, okay, Anita
didn't say much. She just said you met
some guy over the phone. - See.
- So, aren't you gonna
tell me about it? - Well, his name is Dre. - [Toni] And? - He's 28, he lives up
north, and he's a doctor. - Too good to be true. And you believed all that? - He has no reason to lie.
- And he has no reason
to tell the truth either. How did you get hooked
up with him anyway? What, a wrong number? - Well. - Not that Partyline thing. Anita, you bumped
her up to that? - Well I had to find some way
to get her to meet people.
- Anita, if you want
her to meet people, this is the way to
do it, real people. Not some crammy way
through the phone. - Toni, I know this seems crazy but I'm being careful
and he's really nice. - See Brandi, look over there.
Oh, now that's a nice guy. His name is Luther,
and he's been staring at you since we came in. - Oooh, he is cute. - Lastly, you see that look? He'll be over here soon enough.
- Toni, I'm not
ready for all that. - Ready or not, here he comes. - Toni, how are you
ladies doing tonight? Pardon me, I was standing
over there outside the bar. Your face looks familiar.
- Really? - Uh huh. - You know, if you'll excuse us, we just need to
get another drink. - Enjoy yourselves. - My name is Luther.
- And I'm Brandi. - So do you come here often? - No, my friends brought me. - Well, that was nice of 'em. Can I buy you a drink? - I don't drink.
- I see. So what do you do? - Excuse me. - For a living. What do you do? - I work for an ad agency.
- Yeah, I like that. - A woman with her own. - And you? - I got a little business. - I see, so your business is in? - Some would say that
I'm an entrepreneur.
- Okay, so you
have your own too. - That's right. Hey, music is
kinda loud in here. What do you say we just get
out of here and just go to my-- - Oh, go back to
your place, right? - No, I, well actually I don't
think that'll be a good idea.
I live with someone, and I
don't think that they would-- - Oh, you already have a woman. - No, I didn't say that. - You know what, you don't
have to say nothing else. You better step
off right with me.
- All right, keep
your panties on. Baby, you just totally paranoid with me.
- Whatever, whatever. - What happened? - What was that all about? - Like you said,
too good to be true. You know what, if
you guys don't mind, let's just get out of here.
I've had a long day. - Well. - That's all he said? - I can't believe
you blew Luther off. - Toni, he has a girlfriend
and he sells drugs.
- You don't know that. All you know is that he
said he had a hustle. - Anita's right, Brandi. Guys just say that just to
say that they're working.
He never said he had a woman, just that he didn't live alone. - What sense does that make? - Uh, you and Anita
live together. Did you ever think that
maybe he had a roommate. - A roommate, how do you know? - His roommate tried to
get with me last year.
- Well, he just said
he had a roommate then. - Girl, I just hope
that Mr. 1-900 Is worth you dissing a good
looking man like Luther and not some psycho. - Girl, I told
her to be careful.
He might be Mr. Right,
look what I've got, hmmm. - Yeah oh, I know
what you've got. Life, fingers, lip.
I still say I saw his picture
on America's most wanted. - [Anita] Oh, girl, I
know you're not trying to talk about my man. - [Brandi] Bye Toni. (Phone rings) - Hello.
- Hello Cristal, this is Dre. Thanks for leaving your
number on my voicemail box. - I thought I'll surprise you. Besides it's easier
to talk this way.
- I was thinking, why don't
you meet me for lunch tomorrow. - Tomorrow? - [Dre] Yeah, I was thinking
Che Palm, it's public. - Dre, it's kind of sudden,
I don't know what to say. - Say yes.
- Okay, lunch it is. - Note? - I'll be wearing a
multi-colored dress, and a half haze slice. - Good night. - Good night Dre.
- Good afternoon, welcome
to Nuevo, how many? - Two please. - Would you like to
dine inside or outside? - Outside would be fine. - May I offer you something
to drink while you wait? - Water with lemon please. - Fine.
(Rap music) (tires screeching) (car engine whirring) - Good afternoon,
welcome to Nuevo. How many please? - I'm here to meet someone. I think that's her over there. - Oh okay, follow me please.
I'll give you some time
to look over the menu. - Thank you. Cristal? - Dre. - This is a surprise.
- You didn't think I will come? - Oh no, I was
sure you will come. It's just that, let's
say most of the women that I've met on the
Partyline have just over-exaggerated a little bit. - Oh, in what way? - Well, some might
say they are 5'6" tall when they're really 5'2" tall. Others might say
they are 150 pounds when they're really 350 pounds.
If you know what I mean. - I must say, you're
not what I expected. My girlfriend Anita said
you'll probably be fat with no teeth and
living with your mother. - Oh I see.
Well, your girlfriend Anita
was right about one thing. - What? - I do live with my mother. - Oh. - I'm just joking.
- Stop it. - [Waitress] Are
you ready to order? - Yes, I'll have
the shrimp alfredo. - [Waitress] And you sir? - Yeah, I'll have
the chicken vesuvio, and bring us a bottle
of that Candido Ros. - Oh okay.
- My name is really Alex. - And I'm Brandi. - So what do you think? - So far so good. So tell me Alex, how did you
come up with the name Dre? - Well you wouldn't
notice by looking at me but I'm a huge rap music fan.
Yeah, I listen to guys
like Snoop, LL, Dre. You know, so I
adopt their names, and just how did you come
up with the name Cristal? - I don't know. The night we called,
my roommate Anita, she called herself Chardonnay
and the name Cristal just kinda came out. - (Chuckles) Okay
but I must admit, I like the name Brandi better.
I mean it's smooth, dark
and known to keep a man warm on a cold night. A toast. - Dre, I don't really drink. - Oh, come on Brandi,
it's already paid for.
Besides this is something worth
having one little drink for. - Okay, and what is that for? - To being in love. - To being in love. (Smooth jazz music) - So Brandi, tell me
did you enjoy yourself? - I had a wonderful time.
I can't remember the last
time I laughed so much. - Good then maybe we can
do this again someday. - I think I'll like that. - Excellent, how about tomorrow? You know, dinner.
- Tomorrow? - Yeah, I'm going to
New York next week, and I'd love to see
you before I leave. - Okay, well let
me think about it. - Okay, well don't
think too long. - Don't worry, I won't.
- So you never told me. Is there a chemistry, you and I? - I'll let you know
tomorrow at dinner. - I will be so glad when
I'm finished updating this client list for Mr. Freely.
(Phone rings) - Hello, Remy's Inc. - [Receptionist] Ms.
Seaton, you have a package at reception. - All right, I'll
be right there. I'll be right back.
- Good morning,
Sanchucks Corporation. Hold on please. This came five minutes ago,
I already signed for them. - Thanks.
- You're welcome. - Hmm girl, Neil
doesn't give up easy. - [Brandi] Toni. - Oooh, those are beautiful.
- Strange, he usually sends
from Birds of Paradise. - Well, I guess he really
wants to get your attention. - Aren't you even
gonna read the card? - Ehm ehm, she never reads them. - [Toni] And why not? - Because it's
another card from Neil telling me how
much he misses me, and asking us to
get back together.
- Uhmm, so you say
it's over right? - Don't even think about it. - What? Pervert. - Anita, I met him. - Met who? - Dre.
- When? - Yesterday for lunch. - What, and you
didn't even tell me? Okay, what's he like? - He's intelligent,
attractive and very nice, and I owe it all to you. I knew that Partyline will work. - Excuse me.
(Phone rings) - Hello.
- [Alex] Hello Brandi. - Hi Alex? - [Alex] I hope you don't mind
me calling your cell phone. - Oh no, not at all. - [Alex] Were you busy? - Is that Mr.
1-900? - No, not at all, I was
talking with some coworker. - [Alex] I wanted to
know if we were still meeting this evening. - Yes, we're still
on for tonight. - [Alex] I was thinking we
can meet at Cuatro around six.
- Okay, six it is. - [Alex] Looking
forward to it, bye-bye. - Bye. - So where are we going? - We aren't going anywhere.
- Now girl, if you're
gonna meet this man for the first time, you gonna
need to have some backup. - Too late Toni,
she already met him. - Girl, you're freakier
than I thought you were. - Toni.
- Girl, ain't nothing
to be ashamed of. 'Cause everybody knows
it's the quiet ones you gotta watch out for. (Melancholy music) - Look, I'm not exaggerating. She really said she
was four-figured.
- Or 400 pounds. - Wow (chuckles). - What? - Look at your Brandi,
you are so beautiful. - Thanks.
- No, I mean it. I mean you're
gorgeous, look at you. You just had this
cold about you. I've never met anyone like you.
- Well you're very
nice to say that. - Is that all you have to say? - All? - About me. - Well, I'm still trying
to get to know you. - Well I must tell you, I felt
like I've known you forever.
You do feel the
same way, don't you? - I'm still just
trying to get used to the idea of dating again. - Well you won't
have to look anymore. - Will there be anything else? - Wow, I didn't
realize how late it is. I better go ahead
and get out of here.
- You know what,
keep the change. - Oh, thank you. - No, you're welcome. Brandi.
Brandi, can I at
least give you a ride? - No, that won't be necessary. I have to make a few
stops before I get home. - I see, well can I
see you again soon? Maybe next week or something. - Alex, you're really a nice guy but I just wanna
take my time, okay? - I see.
- Alex, let's just
take our time, okay? - Well look, how
about, you know, okay. It was good seeing
you again, okay. - You, you too, take care. Taxi.
- Hi, you okay? - Yeah, I'm fine. - Thanks for the tip back there. - No problem. - I'm Jay.
- Alex. - So had that been
me back there, I would have at least given you
a kiss good night, at least. - Oh really? - Oh really. - Are you getting off? - Taking off.
- Can I give you a ride? - Can you, I was
hoping you'd ask. - My car is right over here. - Well, let's go. (Funky music) Very nice.
Your girl missed out. Just the way I like my hunk. Strong and black. (Rap music) (soft sensual moans) - Oh Brandi.
- Brandi? Brandi left you remember? It's Jay, baby, Jay. - Oh Brandi. - Brandi? I'm not your Brandi. (Slap cracks) I'm outta here.
(Footsteps clocking) (muffled screams) (slow music) (phone dial beeps) - [Partyline] Welcome
to the Partyline. You must be 18 years
or older to use this-- (phone beeps) You're one-on-one. At the tone, say your name. (Phone beeps) - Cristal.
(Phone beeps) - [Partyline] Now, tell
us why you're here. (Phone beeps) - I couldn't sleep, just
looking for someone to talk to. (Phone beeps) - [Partyline Guy] Baby
girl, get wild you're gone, and connects a week and get-- (phone beeps) - [Partyline] Next, you
have a connect request. - [Partyline Guy] Trump Dre.
- [Partyline] Press
one to connect. (Phone beeps) You are now being connected. - [Alex] Hi Brandi. - Hello Alex.
- [Alex] I just wanted to
say I'm sorry about the way I acted after dinner. I guess I was just hoping I made a better impression on you. Anyway, I hope you you like
the flowers I gave you. I wasn't sure what
kind you like.
I don't want to keep
you on the phone. - Wait Alex, I mean,
dinner was no problem, and the flowers are lovely but how did you know
where to send them? - [Alex] (laughs) Well,
you gave some clues. You mentioned you
love shrimp alfredo, and that you went to Angelo's
at least once a week. So with a little checking,
I was able to find what ad agencies were within
walking distance of Angelo's and your company
was the closest.
Simple deduction, Watson. - I see, Sherlock. - [Alex] (chuckles)
Well, I won't keep you. I need to crash out.
It was a long day. - Yeah, me too, I need
to get some sleep. - [Alex] Hope we can talk soon. - Yeah, sure we can.
- [Alex] Good night. - Good night. (Phone beeps) - [Partyline] Next. - [Partyline Gal] This is a
warning for any ladies out there who have met or thinking
about meeting Slaver.
He is on the line tonight. Some of y'all heard me
talk about this punk. He's beaten me and
attempted to rape several women on this line. My friend Sugar, was
recently attacked by him.
He's attractive and
claims to have a good job like a lawyer or doctor. Even though he changes
name, you can spot him because he always use a rap-- - [Partyline] Next. - [Partyline Guy] Yo,
yo, yo, what's up-- (phone beeps) - [Partyline Gal] This is a
warning for any ladies out there who have met or thinking about-- (phone beeps) - Hello, this is Cristal. I heard your message but
it got cut off when you say he always uses a rap.
Can you please go back to
the message and finish it? (Phone beeps) - [Partyline] The
caller has hung up. Next. (Melancholy music of intrigue) (phone rings) - Yes Rochelle. - Ms.
Seaton, you have
a package at reception. - On my way. - [Anita] Aren't we the
popular one this week. - Girl, don't be heady.
- So how long you've
been working here? - About a year. - About a year, I've
never seen you before. - Excuse me. Yes.
- Mamma mia, Brandi Seaton? - Yes. - Your lunch. - My lunch? - Shrimp alfredo. - But I didn't order
shrimp alfredo.
- Well your name and
address is on the order, and it's already paid for. So have a good day. - Thanks Rochelle. - Hey, call me sometime.
- Your ordered from Angelo's, and didn't even tell us, sister? - I didn't order it,
someone else did. - Who? - I don't know. (Phone rings) Hello? - [Alex] Hi Brandi. - Alex? - [Alex] Yes, did
you get your lunch? - My lunch.
- [Alex] I wasn't sure what
time you went to lunch. I figured this might
be about the time. - Actually this is about
the time we go to lunch but you didn't have to buy me-- - [Alex] Please, I just
wanted to treat you. I know how much you love
shrimp alfredo so accept it.
Compliments of me. - Listen, I
appreciate the gesture but please don't order me
lunch and send it to my job. - [Alex] Why not? - Because it can
become a problem. My bosses are really crazy here, and I can't keep getting
called to reception.
- [Alex] I understand,
well I need to get going. I have to prepare for a
client's court case next week. Are you there? - Yes, I'm here, thanks again. - [Alex] No problem, take care.
- Bye. - So Alex sent the lunch? - Yes, he also sent
the flowers, not Neil. - That's deep, what
did you tell him? - I told him not to
send anything else here. - What did he say? - He said he understood.
- Well I hope so. Oh, don't forget,
I'm having dinner with Lee after work today. - Okay. - Brandi, you gonna be okay? - I'll be okay, I'm a big girl.
(Melancholy music of intrigue) - Hi baby. - What's up darling. - Hey Lee. - What's up there? - Good.
- Do you need a ride home today? - No, it's nice
out, I'll be fine. You two have a good time. - All right, you take care. - [Brandi] All right
you two kids be good.
- We will, have a good night. (Car engine whirring) (slow romantic music) - Hey Neil. - Hey. - What are you doing here? - Well, I was in
the neighborhood and thought maybe I'd see if
you needed a ride or something.
- I guess so. - Okay. - Just a simple ride home right? - Just a simple ride. - No talking about us
getting back together? - Okay, no talking about
us getting back together.
- Okay. - All right. (Car engine whirring) So how was your day? - It was good, and yours? - It was good, busy but good. How's Anita? - She's fine, crazy as always.
- As always. (Brandi chuckles) - What's funny? - Oh nothing. - Come on, tell me. - Promise me you won't get mad.
- I won't get mad. - Promise? - I won't get mad. - Okay, Anita told me she
met Lee through a Partyline. - Yeah I know, she
used to call herself Hennessy or Chardonnay
or something like that.
- You knew? - Yeah, Lee told me. - I can't believe you knew. - I can't believe
Anita didn't tell you but why would I get mad
about something like that? - Uhh, not that. Anita had me call the Partyline.
- What? - You promised. - I promised I wouldn't
get mad, I'm upset. I mean why would she send
you off on something. You know what, I don't
even want to know.
- Good. Look, Anita just wanted
me see what it was like. I thought she was crazy too. - Well, now she's certifiable.
You know it's good to see you. - Thanks. - Well, we're here. - Yeah, well thank
you for the ride.
- You know I was thinking
maybe this evening, we can go out for
dinner or something. - Neil. It was good to see you too, bye. - Bye.
(Car engine whirring) - [TV Host] Partially
clothed body of 24-year-old waitress, Jay Thomas is found-- - What, no midnight
phone rendezvous tonight? - I've decided to
take the night off. - So I see, maybe I
won't have to send you to Partyline we had after all. Okay, what gives? - What do you mean? - Mrs. Casablanca.
- Yeah? - Brandi, you hate Casablanca. - I don't know, I guess
I'm starting to feel like I need to put some space
between me and Alex. I know this sounds crazy
but that lunch thing today freaked me out. (Phone rings) - Well, will you either
turn that thing off or put it on silent? - Okay, okay.
- [Line Operator] City of
Chicago, night emergency. - Hello officer,
I have a question. Let's say you met someone
through a dating service, and you think that
they're stalking you. Is there something
a person can do? - [Line Operator] You
will need to file a report at your district station.
- I can't do it over the phone? - [Line Operator] No ma'am,
it has to be done in person. - I see. - [Line Operator]
Is this stalker someone you know
personally or a stranger? - Both. - [Line Operator] Ma'am? - I don't really know, thanks.
(Phone rings) I think that's a great idea. We'll have our design
team send the artwork to your IT people, and
then they can start work on the website. That way they can launch
everything simultaneously with the magazines,
TV, everything. I'll give this
information to Mr.
Freely, and we'll get back with
you by the end of the week. Okay, sounds good, thanks, bye. - Girl, who is
blowing up your phone? - Take a guess. - Alex? - Yes.
- Girl, are you sure all you
gave him was a handshake? - Girl, that ain't even funny. Hello, Brandi Seaton. - Hello Brandi. - Alex? - Why aren't you answering
your phone, Brandi? - I was on the
phone with a client.
- I see, your work line was busy but I knew if I kept trying,
I'll eventually get through. - Alex, how did you
get my extension? - When a man's in love,
he'll do anything. I'll do anything for you Brandi. You know that right? - Alex, I told you, I think
it'd be best if we be friends.
I don't want to be tied
down to anyone right now. - Hey, can I ask you
a question, Brandi? - Yes. - Who was that guy that picked
you up from work yesterday? Is he your boyfriend? - No, he just gave me a ride, and I can't believe
you're following me. - Are you two back together? - No, he was just
giving me a ride home.
Look, I don't think
I'm the woman for you. - I know you might've
feel that way Brandi. But that's because you
haven't gotten to know me. Gotten to know how much
I can really love you.
- Well, you can't love me. - Why not, Brandi? - Because I'm in love
with someone else, Anita. - Anita. (Anita coughs) - Yes, see, she's
just not my roommate.
- I can't believe you love
Anita more than you love me. - I have to go now, Alex. Please do not call my office or send anything
else to me okay? Goodbye. - Girl, I know you didn't.
- I'm sorry about that. - It's no problem,
it was worth it but how did he take it? - I don't know but I
think it got to him. - Brandi, how did he
get your extension? - I don't know. (Melancholy music of intrigue) (phone rings) (knocks) Come in.
- Hey there. - Hey. - I'm surprised you're still up. - I couldn't sleep.
- Is he still calling? - Is he still calling,
every 15 minutes. 8:00, 8:15, 8:30, 8:45, 9:00. 9:15.
- You've got to be kidding me. You'd think he get the message.
- Don't even mention messages. - He's left 10. - Look, why don't you put in
for a new cell phone number. I know it's drastic but at
least you'll get some peace.
- That might not be a bad idea. - And to make double
sure he can't reach you, we'll switch lines in
the office tomorrow. - What if he calls? - I'll just tell him,
I'm your replacement, and you no longer work here. - It might just work.
- Good, then it's a plan. - Okay. - Look, I'm crashing, I'll
see you in the morning? - Yeah. - Good night.
- Anita. - Yeah. - Thanks. - Don't mention it.
(Phone dial beeps) - [Partyline] Welcome
to the Partyline. You must be 18 years
or older to use this-- (phone beeps) At the tone, say your name. (Phone beeps) - Diamond. (Phone beeps) - [Partyline] Now, tell
us why you're here.
(Phone beeps) - Just looking for my friend. - [Partyline] If you're
satisfied with your greeting, press two. (Phone beeps) - [Partyline Guy] What's
up, what's up, what's up. I'm outta here, you know,
looking for you know, one of them, you know-- (phone beeps) - [Partyline] Next.
- [Partyline Guy] Yes, this
message is for those women who come on air acting
like they want a good man. Then when you find
one, you don't know how to treat the brother. I met this hole for lunch,
I bought her flowers, even had lunch
delivered to her gate. But no, that ain't enough.
She rather be with
a dyke girlfriend
instead of a real man. But it's all good. All you holes gonna
know, all y'all got-- - [Partyline] Next. (Thunder rumbling) - I saw you looking at him.
- You've been drinking again. - You ain't drinking. - Stop it. - [Brandi] Can't believe
you're following me.
- Don't touch me. - I'm in love with
someone else, Anita. - I saw you looking at him. - [Alex's mother] Stop it.
- [Brandi] I'm in love
with someone else. - [Alex's father]
Come here woman. - [Alex's Mum] Stop it. - Anita.
I'm in love with Anita. - [Alex's mother]
Stop it, stop it. (Thunder rumbling) - There, all done. - Are you sure? - Yeap, they're switched.
- Okay. - Now you'll get my
calls, and I'll get yours. Just make sure you don't
hang up on Lee if he calls. - I won't, thanks again Anita.
- Oh, it's no problem baby. You're my girlfriend remember? You can make it up to me later. (Brandi chuckles) Oh, I gotta go to the bank. - Oh okay, I'll go with
ya and grab a bagel.
- Okay. ("Crazy" by Nahvee) - Brandi. Why are you doing
this to me, Brandi? You can't just love
me and then walk away. Why are you doing this to me? Yes, yes, I'll have you.
You and your friend Anita. I'll have you both. (Phone rings) - Good afternoon, Anita Ferrell. - This is your
landlord, Mr.
Davis. - This is Anita, Mr. Davis. - Oh hi, looks
like somebody tried to break into your
apartment this afternoon.
- Oh, how did that happen? - Now I don't know all that. I just know you need
to come on home. - Thanks, I'll be there shortly. - What was that about? - That was Mr.
Davis. He said someone tried to
break into our apartment. - Oh, okay, I'll go with you. - No you stay here.
There is no way Mr.
Freely is gonna let the both of us off early. Besides, in two hours,
you're off the clock. - All right, but make sure you
call me when you get there. - I will.
- All right. - Uhmm, good thing you came and saw that door
busted open, son. She should be here in
just a little while. Lucky these two work
at the same office.
Aw, now I need to
call the police. - Neil, I'm sorry to bother you
but I don't know what to do. - [Neil] Brandi,
woh, woh, slow down. What are you talking about? - I've been trying
to reach Anita but she's been gone over an
hour, and I can't reach her.
- [Neil] You know how Anita is. She should probably
at Lee's house. - No she went back home because someone broke
into our apartment. - [Neil] Did you
call your landlord? - Yes, I called a few times
but no one's answering.
- [Neil] Well, I'm
sure she's okay. You want me to come over? - No, that's okay, I'll be fine. - [Neil] Okay, I'll be here
for a while if you need me. - All right.
- Brandi, you okay? - No, I'm worried about Anita. She was supposed to call
me when she get home. It's been over an hour
and she hasn't call. - Well, did you call her cell? - Yes, that was what I was
doing but she's not answering.
- Well. Who are you calling now? - Mr. Davis, our landlord. Something's wrong,
he's not answering.
- The only thing wrong
was that's a beautiful day out there, and we're
stuck here at work. - Toni, can you do me a favor? Can I borrow your car keys? - Well sure but you gotta
bring it back tonight. - Okay, no problem. Okay look, here's my
cell phone number.
If Anita calls, give
her this number, and tell her to
call me right away. - What you leaving this place? Like another hour
before we go off-- - I know Toni, I know. Look, if Mr. Freely
asked for me, tell him that you don't
know where I'm at, and just remember
what I told you to do.
- Okay, I won't, see ya. (Phone dial beeps) (melancholy music) - Anita. Anita. (Door creaks) Oh my God, Anita.
Anita. - Run, Brandi. - Oh my God. (Brandi screams) - Anita would've called you but she was tied up.
- Alex? - I had to do it Brandi. Anita was the one thing
keeping us from being together. - What did you do to her? - I had to see why
you love her so much. But she wouldn't let me.
She fought me, she spit
in my face so I cut her. The same way you cut me. - Anita. - Don't you see Brandi? We can be together now.
It's just you and me. - Alex, you can have anyone. - I don't want anybody
Brandi, I want you. - Well, we have to
talk about that.
I mean, I really know
you less than a week. - You don't want me? Is that it? - She was my friend, Alex. - Friend? It wasn't about Anita, was it? She wasn't your
lover, you lied to me. - I was at then no
where to tell you.
You are a really nice
guy but I trust in-- - You trust in what new? Is that it? - Yes, that was what
I was about to say. - Yes, it is. You're just like all the others. - No Alex.
- You lying bitch. - No Alex. - Teasing me, drawing me
in, calling me on the phone, making me think you love me, and making me fall
in love with you. So you can just laugh
at me and walk away like everybody else.
- Please Alex, I will
never laugh at you. - I hate you. You made me love you. You made me love
you, and I hate you.
(Kick thuds) (laughs) You shouldn't
have done that. - Run Brandi. (Punches and kicks thud) (knife swooshes) - Oh my. (Alex groans in pain) (phone dial beeps) - [911 Operator] 911,
what's your emergency? - Hello, this is Brandi Seaton.
I need someone to come
to 1211, South Jackson. - [911 Operator] What's the
nature of the emergency ma'am? - Some people have been hurt, please hurry.
- The police and medics are being dispatched. (Glass smashes) - I love you, Brandi. I love you, Brandi.
(Knife swooshes) (Alex groans) (Brandi gasping) - You okay, you okay, you okay? (Brandi breathing heavily) (police siren blaring) - [Brandi] Well ever since
my boyfriend left me, I've been so lonely. So I called the line
hoping to find someone who would come over and make
me feel good about myself. - [Partyline Guy] I can't
believe I could be this lucky. I mean, I mean this is
my first night calling and I run into someone like you.
- [Brandi] Yeah,
I feel lucky too. - [Partyline Guy] This is
all happening too fast. What did you say
your name was again? - [Brandi] My name is Missy. - [Partyline Guy] So when
can I see you, Missy? - [Brandi] When do
you want to see me? - [Partyline Guy]
What about tonight? - [Brandi] I was
hoping you'd say that.
- [Partyline Guy] Well,
where do you live? - [Brandi] 1211, South Jackson. - [Partyline Guy] I can
be there in 30 minutes. - I'll be waiting. (Knife hissing) (melancholy music of intrigue) ("Partyline" by Premo Stallone) ("Roleplay" by Jameisha Trice).
There's one thing that ruins budding relationships unlike anything else and today I'm going to tell some of my stories but the truth is this can happen to men, this can happen to women, to gay people, straight people it can happen to you and that thing is neediness. On the extreme side, it's the person who on the first date starts talking about how they want to marry you and what they're going to name their kids. But maybe you've experienced the lighter side which is you sent a text to someone you like and then rather than moving on with your day, you find yourself checking, you're checking, and wonder why they haven't gotten back. Whether it's big or small, neediness can ruin relationships and that's why I want to talk about three of the most common instances that you might be experiencing and how to deal with them because quite frankly, this is the one that ruins the relationships that you want the most.
So the first thing and one that I have personal experience with is in contacting the person every single day and I will never forget how I learned this this was scarred into me. Way back in undergraduate, I was in my second year and a friend of mine connected me with a girl girl that I wound up liking and the story behind it was that this girl actually had a crush on me so when we were put together I was like, "Oh my god, this is gonna be great." Hungout on Thursday night, had a lot of fun, and by the end of the night, I was smitten. So I invited her out Friday and said, "Do you want to come to this place?" She was very enthusiastic, she said, "Yeah, let's do it," and then whatever. Her plans fell through we didn't wind up meeting up.
So I said, "Okay, she likes me. I'm gonna invite her out again Saturday." So it's Saturday, I said, "Hey let's go out," and she said, "Okay let me let you know maybe we can do it," and she never got back to me that night. So I'm thinking, "Okay she definitely likes me," so what I did is I've invited her out on Sunday. And I invited her out on Sunday and she wrote back some sort of middling response and by the time that I went to ask my friend to recoordinate another meeting with us, she said, "It's over.
You blew it. It's too late ," she's no longer interested. And I tell you this story so that you realize that you often need to create some space in between seeing someone that you really like. Now, you can put an artificial amount of time in there that is a service level thing like saying, "Okay, I'm going to wait three days people have different rules," but the better truth is to feel your time with things that you like.
So especially after you were maybe to go on a date and it fell through, make sure the next night you do something awesome. Could it be a date with someone else? It could be if that's the way you want to go but maybe just something that you love to do, a movie that you like, spending time with friends especially when you feel yourself getting very invested in someone that you don't know that well, go back to the things you love and make sure you're doing them because if not, you're going to go all in on that person and it will ruin it. So the second thing that comes up that I see is begging and pleading. Now, you might be thinking, "Okay, clearly I don't beg, I don't plead, and I haven't done that," but it's more common than you think.
When I say begging, what I mean is you invite someone out, you say, "Hey would you like to go tonight?" And they say, "I'm sorry I've got this thing that I need to do," and rather than saying, "Okay cool, we'll do it later," you say, "Come on, it's gonna be so much fun. You know you want to. Like, just cancel those plans, it will be great." And I've done this, absolutely, I have friends who have done this. But while this seems fun and cheeky the truth is you're putting them in a position where they are guaranteed basically to like you less.
This is not cute because what it forces them to do is to say no to you and the way that our brains work is we find ourselves saying no, no no, to someone even if we like them, part of us goes, "Okay, why am I say no to them? I must not be interested," plus you're asking them to devalue their own time so that they can invest in you which tells them that's what you would do for them which is the crux of neediness this is you not valuing your own time or their own time. The appropriate answer here as long as it inflate last minute and it's not a terrible thing where they just like stood you up after we bought some really expensive tickets or something which you shouldn't do early on anyway but the appropriate thing is just be cool, have fun, and then make plans several days later very simple. The third thing here and this is one, again, that I have very personal experience with is in changing your schedule for the other person Now, this is one that I've learned and forgotten over and over again most recently it had can happen to a relationship that's been going on. I had been seeing this girl for a period of time, we really liked one another but for her own reasons, she started to put in less effort and pull back, and become less available and because I liked her and spending time with her, my response was, "Okay, I'm going to be more available.
I've got this flexibility, my time is, you know, I can work this time. My friends are pretty flexible too so if she says we're going out Tuesday but then cancels, I'll just make sure that I'm free on Wednesday for lunch." And that went on and as that happens she became less and less available. It was more and more work for me to actually get her out. So it came to a head on a sunday night and we had plans to meet at about ten o'clock.
She called me at like nine and said, "Hey I'm really sorry, I'm at my family's and I'm not gonna be able to make it out tonight and I got I've got plans Monday, I've got plans Tuesday, I've got work Thursday and Friday so maybe can do something on Wednesday," and earlier what I would do is, "Absolutely! Great! Wednesday it is. Also it's a bummer that you kind of flicked his last minute but I forgive you," and what I did instead here was very simply, because my friends had asked me earlier that day, if we could go out Wednesday. There was no fixed plans but my friends had set it and so I told her, "I've got plans Wednesday night so I can't," and she paused and said, "Wait a second. If you can't on Wednesday then I can't see this week." I said, "Yeah that's what it sounds like," and she started going, "Well, I wanted to just cancel your plans." I said, "No I'm not going to cancel my plans.
I have plans with my friend," and I could feel her starting to get more frustrated, nervous and she said, "Okay let me call you back," and hung up the phone. Ten minutes later, she called me and she said, "I'm going to wrap up here. I'm going to finish with my family. I'm going to see you tonight like we had planned," and so she came over and we hung out as we had planned to do at 10pm and I tell you the story not because this was a huge victory that she came over on Sunday and not Wednesday but because this was a turning point in the relationship where she had pulled away previously when I started to protect my own time and invest in the promises or even just the brief plan that I made with my friend she began to put in more effort.
She stopped pulling back and she started to match and becoming more flexible rather than me having the one that was constantly adjusting for her and quite frankly I think this probably saved the relationship. So if you sense that this is you, you're getting down this line where you're the flexible when you're always adjusting for the other person and you're not, like, changing plans so that they can cancel last minute, what I really recommend you to do is start becoming a planner. Meaning at the beginning of your week, set up things that you have to do even it's as simple as in Thursday night you're gonna watch a TV show with your roommate so if you could get asked to go out on Thursday night you can't because you have to watch a TV show with your roommate. When you protect and respect your own plans, people will respect you more.
This isn't to say that later in a relationship, you cannot have a little bit more flexibility after you've got a give-and-take but early on it's the kiss of death to start flaking on your friends for someone else and in fact one of the best things you can do here is if it is a more open and inclusive event like it's a TV show with your friend and it's not some secret going-out, you can say, "Thursday, I'm actually watching TV with my friend and we're going to watch a show but if you're interested, you're welcome to come hang out with us." That shows the person that you are inclusive, that you do value your friends and your plans. So I hope that those three things help but beyond this, neediness goes more than the surface level which is what we've covered. Where neediness this comes from is not feeling like you have options. Like feeling like that person is your best chance at being happy and the real way to combat that which takes effort and time is to create options in your life that doesn't just mean dating other people that would clearly give you some options on a Friday night but it can also mean investing in your fitness regimen which you have to do.
Creating a business, more habits, spending time with friends the more things that you have in your life that make you happy and the less willing you are to compromise on those, actually the more people you will draw towards you because you are valuing yourself and investing in you and that is going to signal to them that they need to do the same. So I hope that this is giving you something to reflect on. Maybe you've seen some neediness in yourself that you can begin to root out. But I know that this video covers a lot of what happens after the first meeting but a lot of people have asked me, "How do I actually get that to occur?" And there are some simple things some simple three things typically that I will say to a girl that I'm interested in when I want to talk to her and we set up a video that has that one click link here.
That's going to take you to another page, you can drop your email, and then get those three things that, typically, I use to start conversation many of the times. Now, do these work for women or gay people, gay men-women? I'm honestly not sure. I've only been myself and my experience is limited so I will say it's absolutely work for guys that are interested in women. Everyone else, I'm sorry, I don't have the experience and I'm not certain but regardless of who you are, I do hope that you decide to subscribe to the channel.
It's not all the time that we do dating advice but I've seen this happen to a bunch of friends recently and I wanted to touch on it because neediness is not just going to kill your romantic relationships, it can actually ruin friendships. So when you got it, when you started investing in yourself, things just go better across the table. So I hope you guys decide to subscribe to the channel. It's going to be much more than dating charisma, confidence, all those kind of things plus celebrity breakdowns.
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- Her mom's trying to get
her to be a ho, low key. - Kids must have been
dicks back then, you know? - I can not believe this
was a PSA. (Rock intro) - (FBE) So today, we are gonna
show you some videos that were sometimes played
in high schools as PSAs around life issues.
- Ooh, this is gonna be fun. - Why?
I'm in summer break.
I don't need to see this. - (FBE) All these played
in high schools back in the '50s and '60s.
- Oh my gosh, this is gonna be problematic. - I think of that old school
traditional "Guys, make sure you hold the door open
and ladies, make sure you curtsy." - I'm scared these are gonna
be super corny and I'm just gonna be
laughing. - Times have changed so much.
I'm just so excited to see what they were talking about.
- (Narrator) How do you
choose a date? One thing you can consider
is looks. - What the [bleep]? - (Narrator) Woody thought
of Janice and how good looking she was. - That's not a good way to start it. - (Narrator) Well, it's too bad
Janice always acts so superior and bored.
She'd make a fellow feel awkward and inferior.
- Oh my-- - Starting off with a bang.
- (Narrator) What about Ann?
She knows how to have a good time and how
to make the fellow with her relax. - Oh my God, I hate this. - (Narrator) That's what
a boy likes. He wants to know he's
appreciated.
- That's just so dumb. - (Narrator) How do you
ask for a date? What about this?
- I love the announcer in the back. - (Woody) Ann, well how
about a date? - I can't take this seriously. - (Ann) Oh really?
No thanks, Woody.
- Ooh, you tell him, girl. - (Narrator) Well, suppose
he did it this way. - (Woody) This is Woody.
Well, I have a ticket for... - Oh my God.
The acting is so bad.
- (Woody) Would you
like to go? - Aw, that's cute. - Yeah, that just seems
more formal. Sort of confident, you know? - (Ann) But I think I can go.
That'll be fun. - Jesus, the acting back then
was horrible.
- (Narrator) How do you
say goodnight? Perhaps...
- No, you don't, no. - Yeah, that's not a very
good idea. - No, no, no, no, no. - (Narrator) One more way.
- (Woody) Well, it's getting late.
- (Ann) Yes, it is. I'd ask you in for a
bite to eat if it weren't so late. - Why is it so awkward? - (Ann) Let's try and get
home in time for a sandwich or something.
- The acting is so bad. - (Ann) Goodnight, Woody.
- Oh, no kiss goodnight? - Good thing there's
a second date.
I'm proud of my man.
If he was here, I'd give him a high five. - I just didn't expect that
to be something that high schoolers would see
from school. - I can not believe this
was a PSA. I can't even imagine that
today.
That would just be so weird. - (FBE) So, why do you think
there was a need to make something like this back
in the day? - I don't know.
Was not having a girlfriend a really big issue? - I feel like it was very
unnecessary back then. It was very just,
"Boys do boy stuff, girls do girl stuff,
so how do boys and girls do boys and girls stuff?" - I feel like they were just
socially awkward more back then and just
so isolated because there's no social media.
People just have balls now. They're just like, "All right,
I like her.
She's hot." - Now we watch videos about
babies being born and it's so weird to see
back then it's like, "Well, this is how you
get a date." And now it's like,
"Well, this is what happens at the end."
And then poof, hairy baby.
- (Voices) Ew! - "Going steady."
No one calls it that any more. - (Woman) I do wish you'd
try going out with some of the other boys as well
as Jeff. - Her mom's trying to get her
to be a ho, low key. - (Woman) I know, dear.
I like him too.
- Props to you, Jeff. - (Woman) After all,
there are other boys in the world.
- What? - (Girl) I guess I have
been going steady with Jeff. - Okay, what exactly does
she mean by "going steady?" - (Girl) We never talked about it.
- Doesn't really sound like they're going steady
if they never talked about it. - (Man) You haven't dated
anyone else for quite a while.
- (Boy) But we haven't
agreed on anything. I mean, we haven't even
talked about going steady. - What does that even mean? - (Woman) You'll likely
go steady with several different girls.
- (Laughs) - (woman) Seriously
about marriage. - It's so weird how much
they say "going steady." I feel like that's not really
a term that's used very often anymore.
- At first, I was like,
oh wait, this is horrible. What is he doing?
Before, dating meant going out with different people
and seeing who you liked and then ending up with
that person, but now if you do that,
you're a thot. - I don't think I'd have
that conversation with my mom. I don't think she'd be
encouraging me to go out with more guys.
Definitely, you can tell this is from a different
time period.
- It's just weird to me that
they had these to show at school.
I just think it's funny how they needed that
back in the day. - (FBE) So, before World War 2,
the term "going steady" was a stage that young
people took only if they were serious and thinking
about marriage. Over time, the meaning
changed and a couple going steady was simply
a couple that dated each other exclusively.
- That's so weird. Nowadays, people just
date just to date.
- That makes more sense then,
because the advice that the mom was giving
the little girl was kind of like, "There's plenty of other boys."
But I was like, if she's with him, she's with him,
but I guess back then, she kinda wanted to make
sure that she knew that he was the one. - (FBE) If they did play this today,
how do you think that students would react and do you think
that students back then felt the same way?
- I feel like they'd take it as a joke in a way
because people nowadays are like, "Long term relationships?
Psh." - This would not go over well.
People in my high school, they stay with some for
three days, say that they love them, and then
break up. - I know a lot of people that
are like, "Oh, I'm young. I don't have to go steady.
I'm in high school.
These relationships aren't
gonna last anyway." So I think a lot of people
would laugh about it compared to back then,
a lot of people probably took this very seriously. - (Boy) I don't have
any fun at parties. - What the heck is this? - (Boy) Kids just aren't friendly.
- (Narrator) Oh Bill, that might be your fault.
- Tell him flat out. - (Narrator) Maybe it's just
that you don't know how to use social courtesy.
- That's true.
- (Boy) What's so special
about this? I don't have to be courteous
just to call for my date, do I? - Who is he talking to? - Wow, I love the shirt. - (Girl) I'm nearly ready.
Do you wanna come in for a minute?
- (Boy) Nearly, huh? - Whoa. - (Boy) I'll wait out here.
- Are you serious? - (Boy) Don't take all night. - What the heck? - (Narrator) Maybe you'd
better try to be more friendly this time.
- This is just how not to be a jerk.
- (Girl) That's quite a costume.
I'm nearly ready. Do you wanna come in
for a minute? - What a model student. - (Boy) I'm sorry, Jill.
- Bill's being polite. Oh my gosh.
- (Boy) I'll get you some more.
- He didn't even have to tell him what to do
this time. - That's just manners, though. - (Narrator) What do you think
of social courtesy now? - (Boy) I guess it makes being
with people a lot more enjoyable. - Kids must have been dicks
back then, you know? - (Narrator) And more enjoyable
for them, too.
- This is just common sense
that they're making into videos. - Was this something that
the kids needed? Were they having a hard
time trying to interact with other people? - (FBE) So, after watching
all these videos today, how would you describe
them and compare them to today? - They are just not good. - They definitely still apply.
For me, by now it's common knowledge,
but for other people, it might be different,
so they need to be taught that kind of stuff. - The first two were
super cringe, but the third one,
it's something that should be common knowledge,
but it isn't.
Now it's about sexual
reproduction and more of anatomy and actual
detailed science. - I think they're relevant
just 'cause the topics are-- everyone needs to know
how to date, everyone needs to know
how to be nice to other people, but the way in which
the videos are made currently won't go over so well. - (FBE) So, as we mentioned
earlier, all those PSAs were from the '50s and '60s.
- Yes, they were. I would never see anything
like this any time ever.
The PSAs we watch
are more practical and scientific and
actually educational rather than this
common sense. - (FBE) So, several of
the videos presented different social scenarios
that a teen would go through in the '50s and '60s.
After watching this, production value and
cringe factor aside, would any of these videos
be helpful to teens today if they were just presented
in a different way? - No.
With teens today, they would think it's
cheesy. They wouldn't want to
listen to it. - There's so many other
people that have gone through stuff already that
you can just easily go to them instead of watching those PSAs.
- I can't even think of
another way to address the situation, so I guess
a video is nice, but I just don't think
that would work. - Maybe some people needed
this type of advice. Now they kind of--
their main focus is cyber bullying. - If we made other videos
that were kinda like that, but way less cringey
and more relatable, then I feel like that
might be helpful.
- I think they would,
'cause I think teens need to learn about
manners a little bit more. I think that would be great
if it was remade into a social version of it
as far as social media. - I'm gonna compare it
to the texting and driving PSAs because those,
they really hit home. So, I really feel like
that's kind of how we'd have to go about it today.
- (FBE) So finally,
after seeing all these videos, do you think that showcasing
these to modern students as discussion points on what
has changed in the world might be more beneficial
than the actual PSAs? - I think these could be still
beneficial because while they're a little funny and
a little cringey, the intentions are there
and if you look past the laughs, there's
actually good messages in there about being polite and
the right and wrong way to do things. - I like seeing how the world
has changed and evolved from what it was 20 years ago,
50 years ago. - I think we still need
to watch these, because now I feel like
we skip those steps because we feel like
they're obviously the simple stuff and we think that people
automatically know. We need to show the whole
process and teach everyone the whole process again
because we need to revamp this thing.
Everyone's dicks nowadays.
- Watching these videos
was definitely a wake up call. Dang, we were really that different.
Showing these videos to teens nowadays would
be helpful for people to just remember
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- What, you just asked me. - Sorry, you're just too needy. - You asked me, me! - Wanna work on our presentation at two? - Yeah, uh, I should
tell you that I'm working on a few projects with
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- What? - Dick pic, here, enjoy. Hey Raf, good morning buddy, have a picture of my dick, there you go. - I don't want this.
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